One of my close friends has recently
found himself at the lonely end of an unrequited romance.
"How do you get over it?"
he asked me.
"Well," I said, "With
about a dozen sad love songs, some comfort food, and the occasional one night
stand. Y’know, the same as the real thing."
There are no magical cures for a
broken heart, the same as there are no instant cures for a broken leg. You have
to set it and let time do its thing.
The same is true of that crush -
that relationship that only really exists in our fertile and romantic
imaginations. It's in the haven of our minds that we find the man or woman of
our dreams. They cannot otherwise exist. We project this fantasy on other, mostly
unsuspecting, persons and we fill our days listening to beautiful, inspiring
love songs. We familiarize ourselves with their comings and goings and adjust
our own to follow suit.
"Wounded Cupid" by Lovey appears courtesy of the Open Clip Art Library (www.openclipart.org)
Eventually, events unfold that return
us to the realization that we are the only member of this duo with any real
emotion invested in the relationship. We are reminded what a wonderful “friend”
we are. We notice that he or she is attracted to everything we are not. We meet
the significant other. We understand that they will not or cannot return our
emotions. We deem this love "unrequited" because the word sounds as
hopeless and harsh as it feels. The hurt is valid because the love we feel is
valid and the fact that it is not flowing in both directions does not make it
any less so.
So, we light candles. We sing along
to sad songs. We write poetry.
When
a lonely heart is broken
And
a smile no longer shines,
The
laughter slowly dies
And
the fervor melts inside.
When
the moment is suddenly broken,
And
all dreams are set askew,
My
soul turns shades of blue
And
my tears burn silent for you.
Then
life is set asunder
And
the day no longer fades,
But
it shatters like a crystal,
And
the shards bring tears of pain.
When
a lonely heart is broken,
Yet
no one seems to care,
I'll
cry about my broken heart,
And
broken hearts everywhere.
Eventually, we move on.
Cheers,
-Ceddy
The poem "Broken" is from I Wear The Colour Green
